Basic Etiquette List
1. It should go without saying, but hygiene and cleanliness is not negotiable. Please shower, groom, and make sure breath is minty fresh.
2. My calendar fills quickly (due to business, work and family.) At minimum, please allow 72 hours+ notice. Longer engagements require additional lead time.
Same-day requests are sometimes (but rarely ever) possible — however there’s an additional $150 convenience fee to accommodate you.
3. Disrespect, intoxication, poor hygiene, or crossing boundaries will result in the date ending early without refund.
4. Would you like to impress me? I love chocolate, flowers, moscato, and smoked salmon. You can never go wrong with a Barnes and Noble gift card or even a spa gift card. Gifts are not expected but greatly appreciated.
BDSM ETIQUETTE -Extended and Compiled
1. Safety, consent, communication and transparency are the pillars of my pro-domme work.
2. Hierarchy. My partner is your Alpha. The privilege to be my Beta sub is a huge responsibility. Submissive start as subs-in training. You are a (sub-in-training) until you prove your worthiness to be a Sub (which is at my discretion). My goal is to have an army of subs with perhaps a few betas at the top.
3. In private settings such as my clinic, dungeon, and alone, address me as Mistress or Goddess. In public settings (non-kink/BDSM-friendly settings), please refer to me as Misa. I also go by Genesis (my last stage name).
4. You must be able to communicate your thoughts, desires and boundaries. Hard boundaries are respected. Soft boundaries are like yellow lights. They can be questioned but proceed with caution.
5. You are expected to be transparent and honest about everything in session. This is real life. We have emotions, feelings and needs. I want to hear what turns you on and help set the scene. Also, be upfront about who you are. Don’t hide behind a persona. Be yourself.
6. We respect each other’s boundaries and care about our safety and health. We utilize a safe word “Whisky” or tapping out to show we are no longer comfortable with the scene.
7. Touching requires permission. Ask Mistress for permission before you touch her.
8. I expect tributes regularly for my time and attention and preferably without having to ask. I have an Amazon wishlist, enjoy random deposits to my cashapp, Venmo, or gift cards to Barnes and Noble or even plain old cash. Also, my dungeon is in need of good BDSM furniture and new tools.
9. The beginning of each session, please hand me my “gift,” I appreciate getting this gift and want to make sure I get this right away so it’s not forgotten (yes, people do forget).
10. If you’re serving me long-term, I expect you to serve ME and ONLY ME. I prefer to see you in person at minimum once a month.
11. Every scene needs to be negotiated. What do you want to feel? What do you hope to gain from this scene?? How do you want to feel after the scene.
12. Do remind Mistress of the time. Her time blindness is often ridiculous and she may have patients/clients right after you.
13. Your personal life and personal triggers can be off limits, if you so choose. If you choose to share your personal life, I will respect any conversations we have by NEVER sharing your information. HIPPA essentially, but for sex workers.
14. Your sexual health and safety is important to me. I do STI checks every 3 to 6 months and will be happy to show you my clean bill of health. I require you to be free of possible STIs and to be honest if you are aware of being positive for ANY STI. If you have signs/symptoms of an STI, please go get checked before we meet again and complete any treatment regiment you were prescribed.
15. Please do not negotiate my rates unless I have given you permission to work out a deal with me. My work as a pro-domme requires a generous amount of emotional investment, time, and planning. It is a calling and privilege for me to provide this service.
16. I do not expect communication every single day, but we can negotiate a communication agreement if needed. If I’ve gotten you on a training regimen, make sure you’re communicating your training via my instructed method.
17. Recording the session requires my consent and yours.
18. I prefer email, but if you ask permission after we’ve had a session or two, you may get permission to communicate via text.
19. I generally will have time to correspond with you, but if I’m MIA for more than 48 hours, feel free to remind me to reply, I may have forgotten or life just got the best of me.
20. Life happens. If you have an emergency that requires and you to cancel, please let me know ASAP. We can use the deposit to go towards your next appointment.
21. I take deposits in order to confirm our appointments. Every session. It’s about respect.
22. Any time that we spend together, is time that needs compensation, even out of session. If we’ve negotiated a deal, then I’m considered compensated. Do not take my time for granted. I have very little time.
23. Do not try to top me from the bottom. You’re here to serve me. Don’t forget that.
24. Walk your talk. Mistress is not fond of subs who can’t keep their word
25. Be patient, kind and respectful, ALWAYS. Mistress will give you the world, but only if you follow the rules and show her these traits consistently.